If you asked me what my priorities are my answer is always on auto pilot -faith and family. I would likely tell you in that order. I’ve been really convicted over the last week that this has not been true lately. It is true in my heart, but it is not reflected in my actions…so what does that say about my heart???
We can say we value or prioritize whatever we want, but the truth is revealed in the time and energy we actually devote to different people or categories. I recently recommended to someone to chart their time to see where their priorities lie. How pretentious of me to suggest that and not apply it to my own life.
So, let me do that here with you. This is what a basic weekday looks like for me…
15-40 minutes a day on devotions. Okay, on Sundays you can add extra time for church. On Mondays, I can add extra time for my Bible study (I started BFS this year and would highly recommend looking for one in your area). Sure, I conversate with God throughout the day. But still, my set aside devoted daily time is 15-40 minutes
1.25 hours eating – anyone already see the glaring issue right away? I spend at best twice as much time eating than with God. Eating!
2 hours with my family, playing with my niece and nephew, hanging out and talking to the most important adults in my life.
1 hour cuddling with a child/children during calm down/bed time
1 -2 hours leisure time – after the kids go to bed doing whatever I want on that day
6-7 hours of sleep
9 hours at work
Then, throw in a short work out most days.
None of these are bad things. Actually, they are all positive things. HOWEVER, the overwhelming take home from my weekday schedule? God is not my priority. I am letting other, albeit positive, things to come between me and my time with God. How often do this? We focus on work, on being “healthy,” on relationships – instead of focusing on the one who truly can sustain us and cares more about us than anyone else can. We make excuses because they promote a positive, healthy, and balanced life, but forget that God is the number one ingredient to all of those.
If I am not devoting more time to my relationship with God, in His word, praying, meditating on His will – can I honestly say my relationship with Him is my greatest priority? Simply put, NO.
I’m trying to force myself to be honest with myself. This means acknowledging the decisions that I am making. So, when I feel God nudging me to spend time with him at night, but I choose that hour of leisure activity, I am audibly saying, “No, I don’t want to.” Because by not spending that time with Him, that is what I am saying…
”No, God. I don’t want to spend this time with you. I really just want to spend it doing X,Y, or Z instead because I think I deserve it.”
By doing this audibly, I am acknowledging my rebellious and selfish spirit.
And let’s be even more honest. I would NEVER say that to my niece or nephew. So,why am I okay saying that to my Creator, my Comforter, my Savior?
So, I am trying to make a concentrated effort to pour more into the most important relationship in my life. I want to be able to logically defend that He really is my first and foremost priority.
Man, honesty hurts.