“And don’t sin by letting anger control you.] Don’t let the sun go down while you are still angry, for anger gives a foothold to the devil.” – Ephesians 4:26-27
In this passage Paul doesn’t say don’t ever get angry (thank goodness). He says do not sin because of your anger!
Anger is my go-to negative emotion. I’d rather be angry than sad, hurt, discouraged, etc.
I had convinced myself that anger kept me in control…’if I’m angry I’m nobody’s victim’ (And, no I didn’t have a troubled past, I was just born with a temper and a need for control.)
Anger comes easily to me, I’m an emotional person (And that’s putting it lightly). I’m fairly certain I gave my husband emotional whiplash this weekend (luckily he already had a scheduled chiropractor appointment)
Yesterday, this verse was not in my head. It’s ironic that it even came to me today considering just how little I tried reining in my wordy rage. I’ve said a lot of mean, hurtful, unfair things in my furies (and in hunger). I’m not proud of it, it’s simply the truth: I identify 100% with the hulk.
My heart is gold though. I am imperfect; a work in progress. I am a broken vessel, gilded in His gold. I surrender my pieces to God, all broken and angry, and He works miracles in me.
But every time I let my anger run wild I open up space, a foothold, for the devil to create bigger brokenness in me and those I love.
I’m not saying stifle your feelings, I’m SO not capable of doing that (and don’t think God wants that either, he made me this passionate.)
However I will be trying harder to follow the advice of Rabbi Joseph Telushkin, to “restrict the expression of your anger to the incident that provoked it.”
In conclusion: don’t let anger control you…
Remember this, my dear friends! Everyone must be quick to listen, but slow to speak and slow to become angry. – James 1:19
And when you fail, like I often do when it comes to controlling my emotions, try and rebound back to gratitude as fast as you can…and maybe apologize to whoever the victim of your wrath was.